A Sex Manifesto
All of my life, I have been taught, shown, that I should keep quiet about my body, about things involving pleasure and beauty.
No longer.
Our bodies are sacred. They are our temples. We were gifted these bodies, by the earth, by God, by science, or by something other than ourselves. And, in these bodies, we have been given limitless potential.
And yet we deny one of the most beautiful and basic and miraculous and glorious parts of our bodies – the full enjoyment of them and pleasure.
Somewhere along the line, it was deemed that physical pleasure was something of a sin. I can only guess how this came about – someone made a poor choice and got caught in the act, thus blamed body and pleasure for an unfortunate outcome. “It was the body’s fault. It was the temptation. It was the sin.”
Oh, poor body. It wasn’t the body’s fault. It wasn’t pleasure’s fault. It was the poor choice.
But it stuck. Something so beautiful, so personal, got contorted into something that should remain hidden, should be talked of only in hushed tones or with giggles or with great gravitas and an educational tone. Body and body pleasure. One of our most beautiful gifts. Something that we should own, just as we own our identity, our power, and our psyche.
As I teach in other avenues, our life experience is about perception and choice. Things are how we choose to see them. Glass half full. Body as a temple. Or even, body as a template, for painting anew or for learning a whole new experience of pleasure and of life. It is ours. One of the few things that truly is. So why don’t we use it to our amazement and advantage? Doing this wouldn’t cheapen the outer experience. In fact, it enriches our very enjoyment of the world, if we can at first enjoy the temple that we were born into. It’s an act of appreciation.
Am I advocating for experiencing multiple personal orgasms as we walk throughout our day-to-day life? Sure, why not, if we can. What harm would there be in that, as long as it was an independent thing? Although it could make the day-to-day more challenging. The point that I am trying to make is that there is no shame in your body. There is no shame in pleasure, or there shouldn’t be. You have your body, already. So, now is the time to learn about it, explore it, and enjoy it with no fear.
That sounds easy, but I, personally, know the challenge that this provides. I was given a special gift – the gift of being able to orgasm very easily when I want, not involving another person or even stimulation from the outside world. I could be orgasming right now, for all you know. But with my own pre-programming, with my own emotional denial and challenges, I have had my own hurdles for overcoming, especially involving allowing.
You would think that I would be walking around in a constant state of bliss. But I am not. I have felt dirty, tainted, tarnished, crazy, weird, and something of a freakshow. I have disallowed myself any kind of pleasure at different times for various reasons, usually when I have felt unworthy of the gift. Why me? I would wonder. Why should I get to have pleasure? I was un-special, I told myself, reinforced by messages from my past and so-called “failures.”
And there were many times pleasure made me feel even emptier, especially when I had people very openly unlove me. To allow and feel pleasure was excruciating. It showed me what I could have had from others who were supposed to love me; it remined me what had been dangled in front of me, but then was denied because I wasn’t enough – worthy enough, lovable enough, or anything enough.
But we are enough. All of us. For pleasure, and for our bodies, all the time. In life, in body, in existence. Pleasure and joy are what we are meant to pursue, and, then, in turn, meant to give.
Thus I stand here, saying this to free us. To allow us the enjoyment of our bodies, through further education about them and how to find our own beauty and pleasure from within, also to hopefully help us find joy and pleasure from without. But it starts from in here, from in our inner self. And from here, in our bodies. It is our own. It’s starts with our pleasure, allowing, and learning, and loving. So, let’s begin.